Tuesday, October 15, 2019

Growing a boy: When things are good

Hello All (whom ever you are!). I want to thank you for joining me on this journey of musing. I have learned that this blog has created a space for me to process (and grieve at times) as well as remind me of how connected I am (our family is) to those surrounding us. Recently, I was reading blog posts from a year ago. Through this activity, I realized that this space is so necessary for my personal journey. It has brought emotional healing, revelation, tools (sent by you, the readers) and more than anything, it has pointed me back to the Creator.

So in this season, when things are tough but good, I wanted to THANK YOU for always being part of this Oliver Adventure. Oliver has taught us so much about our need to rely on God. He is amazing for showing us that. It has also taught us the love we have for you all. It has taught us to SAY, aloud, what we are thankful for on a daily basis (and on most days, writing it down as a reminder and memorial stone).

Since my last post, we are learning a lot about how to best serve Oliver and his sensory needs. Sensory bins (scoop and dump, scoop and dump, as OSH says), is one of the best "calm down" activities we have discovered. He is learning to self-regulate with the ear muffs and most of the time not even wearing them. I think he finds security in knowing they are there if he needs them. We have purchase "teething" necklaces for car rides and while at the grocery store (this past month at the grocery store checkout he has chewed through a bag of beans, carrots and the silicone lining of a whisk!). Any recommendations for the "best" teething necklaces?! Please let me know. Oliver is thriving with his PT (now a weekly occurrence) and at his surgical follow-up the doctor IS NOT recommending orthotics (which was a surprise to us)! We are on the wait list of OT but are not as concerned about that (yet) since his PT has helped him improve so much. The tape on his glasses (when he wears them) is improving his eyes turning inward.

Now that OSH is 2.5 years, we had his neonatal followup as well. He scored "normal" on every thing. Fine and gross motor, he scored pretty low (but still in the normal range). Not a surprise to us, he scored normal-high for comprehension and verbal. (He literally talks ALL THE TIME...to the point I almost can't drive with him in the back because he jabbers on so much). :)  A blessing, right?

Overall, we are living life! My thoughts and heart have settled since a few weeks ago and we are learning practical tools on how to help him thrive in his daily life. If you would like to pray for him specifically, here is how:
  • Healing (he is currently sick & I always worry about his lung -- or lack thereof)
  • Gentleness (he has taken to pushing and shoving his older sibling [and even us] out of an aggressive heart)
  • Volume (he often screams/shouts/speaks at a yelling tone. As you can imagine, it is difficult to parent, or drive, when this happens and always can get us all riled up)
  • Wearing his glasses (recently, he has decided that he just does not want to wear them and as a result, his eyes are turning in)
Bless you all for joining us in celebration & prayer! I hope you have a wonderful week in HIM.

Maranatha